The rhythms of life as a stay at home parent have gone through such distinct stages. There’s the sleep deprivation / breastfeeding stage where night and day blend together as do the days of the week. All time is the same. It drove me crazy a bit. And with my two babies only 15 months apart, in some ways I felt like I spent two straight years in that stage.
Next there was the stage of two toddlers. This was actually quite nice. I liked it here. The days and nights become distinct again. Days start to have regularly scheduled appointments like nursery school two mornings a week. Regular playdates are set. Conversations begin to return with adults aside from your husband and on topics other than the feeding, sleeping, changing, and development of babies.
And now there’s something new. Parent of a child with special needs. I’m barely starting this and I’m realizing that appointment are beginning to be difficult to keep track of. There’s school two mornings a week. Two half hour therapy sessions a week with the private therapist. The IFSP meeting coming up. The hearing test coming up. Then we’ll be scheduling the first steps therapy session(s). That will probably be once a week for an hour which is their typical schedule. I’m going to try to advocate for half hour sessions twice a week though. It’s better for kids with apraxia and I have the citations to prove it. I doubt any speech-path knowledgeable about apraxia would argue the point, but sometimes practicality wins. They serve you in your home. If you factor in driving time, you are asking them to fit in extra time into a busy schedule serving other families too. It can’t hurt to ask though, right? So that will bring us up to three or four therapy appointments a week. Plus two mornings of preschool. We also have two regular playdates. I hate to let those go, but I begin to wonder where we’ll fit it all in. The kids still nap in the afternoon. And don’t they get to just hang out at home any more? Balance… does it even matter? Or is the therapy more important?